well behaved women

You know what I think I am most fond of, out of all the tropes and male/female mores Anne Bishop plays with in her Black Jewels books?

The whole 'uncontrollable lust' thing. Heat, rut, whatever you want to call it...I don't think I've ever seen it handled in fiction before in a way that didn't leave a bad taste in my mouth. In her books, it either happens to a long established happy couple or the unaffected female is given the chance to leave and she makes the clear choice to involve herself.

When it's in an unestablished relationship, with people who don't know each other that deeply, it freaks the girl out and he manages to calm down. He backs off.

Like, I don't know how often this needs to be said to sink in. Pushing a girl into a sexual relationship with a flimsy narrative excuse is not romantic. Or hot. Or impressive. It's just rape, even if she likes it after she says no.

Apparently it needs to be said a lot, because the perpetrators don't seem to be listening.